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I am looking forward to...



JURASSIC LOUNGE!!!

Think dinosaurs, alcohol, silent disco, flashlight tours, touch exhibitions and live artists!

I am lemming...


Chelsea Boots (from Tony Bianco)


OPI Black Shatter

How's that for a lame, materialistic comeback of shallowness?

Return of the Kitties

You've probably realised from the cat-related posts (see: Meow/Kitty Beanie & Kitties Hug Picture/Silly Stories) that I have a penchant of cats. This is far from a secret.

Yesterday, my bro asked me if I wanted to watch a short movie about a cat. I asked him if it was cute. He dodged the question by muttering some reply I can't remember. Having a feeling I'd regret it, I agreed to watch it. The short film is called, The Cat with Hands and is directed by Robert Morgan.



I'll be the first to admit that I'm a scaredy cat (not that I want anything to do with cats after that film), and it's almost midnight, I'm sleep deprived, and this equals a very irrational me. One night D told me that there was a monster outside my window and I screamed at him (okay, the msn caps locks equivalent, but whatever) and forced him to retract that statement/make it go away even though he explained it was the friendly monster from the bed time story he'd just told me. So it should be no surprise to you that after I watched this I clung to my younger brother giving him forceful hugs, and that I will be avoiding this blog entry in future!

The point of this though is that I'm still a cat lover. I maintain that whatever it was depicted in that short film is not a cat and have already begun blocking it out of my mind (although it is a wonderfully creative piece).



Kitties will, and always be, cute, fluffy companions that frolic happily and purr contentedly against my heart, which is totally why this item of Kitty clothing Will. Be. Mine.

Now I'm off to continue badgering D to get a kitty...

Meow

I want this beanie bad despite the fact that only certain beanies like me enough to flatter my head (and not make me look like the Queen of Hearts from Tim Burton's Alice in Wonderland...) and that I'm still waiting for two beanies in my Gmarket order and that this beanie costs $29.95.



Just look at it! It's adorable! Meow! I like kitties!

Okay, enough for the incoherency. I'm suffering from writers block now in addition to my cold and whatever else and it's frustrating me and clearly impairing my ability to function!

Whatever, I'm going to bask in my past (meaning last week) success. Here's the writing task I did with the brief: Interview your parents about your birth and write a creative non-fiction piece. I'm going to go wash my hair.

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I do not want to do this interview. It fills me with dread and explores territory I don’t want to cover. It should be harmless, right, interviewing one of my parents about my birth? Something that should normally be a joyous occasion.

Xinran says in her introduction to China Witness that the Chinese have “a strong inhibition towards the idea of speaking out openly – out of a fear of implicating others” , and I guess that’s what I’m suffering from. I can’t help but think of Ou Yang Yu, whose book I’m yet to finish, On the Smell of an Oily Rag: Speaking English, thinking Chinese and Living in Australia. I imagine he’d draw the English parallel of, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”.

This paints such a decrepit picture of my family, my parents especially, but I love them. It’s just hard to tear away from my upbringing and what I’ve been taught. Like habits of please and thank you that are as automatic as sensor doors, but I still mean them. They hold meaning to me. This silence is a protective instinct.

I am debating whether to go into it. To plunge in and give away secrets, the family face, which is so prided in Asia. It is hard to, but also hard not to as without doing so is like serving a plate of plain spaghetti. A bland tangled mess on a plate, which everybody questions, not knowing what or why they’ve been served something so horribly incomplete. The sauce may be messy, but it pleases the tastebuds.

From my experiences, and confirmed by what I’ve read, food is important to the Chinese. My mother on discussing her pregnancy with me stressed the point of her suffering – in this instance about morning sickness (but from her incessant complaining should be extended to being all-day-sickness) by letting me know she could not keep any food down. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, none of it survived. Not even water could provide any relief.

My father, on the same subject, talked about the foods and herbal soups he’d cooked for her to keep us both healthy, and in attempts to provide my mother with some comfort. He cooked a lot of congee because it’s easy to digest and nutritious – not just a traditional breakfast dish, but also a typical meal for the sick. It’s also one of my mother’s favourites. Every time we go out to Hurstville, she’ll order congee, and when father cooks a pot, no matter how big the pot is, she makes it magically disappear. Perhaps this is why, whilst I enjoy a small bowl of congee, I cannot eat a lot – I must have had an overdose in the womb.

I also have a lack of appreciation for herbal soups. As a child I used to be a cynic. Now I take them placidly as I not only believe, but know that they’re good for me. They’ve cured me from sickness in the past. But they way they smell, the way they look is enough to induce gagging, let alone the strong disgusting bitter taste. My friend told me her father puts sugar in hers in attempts to make it more consumable. My father says this renders the herbal soup void. My mother and I both have sweet tooths. No wonder there was a time during pregnancy where she believed he was poisoning her.

I questioned them about my birth, and they both answered, as parental code demands, that they were very happy. My mother was glad that I was out, and I can’t blame her. Having to sit through even the briefest of details about nausea and caesareans knowing that I was the cause and that I too will experience the trauma of giving birth is ten thousand times uncomfortable, disturbing, terrifying.

My father, by no means unsympathetic, but nonetheless able to experience my birth through more rose coloured lenses says that it was the happiest moment of his life. That I was beautiful with my thick black hair that I’d stolen from him – I was one week overdue, and he was just starting to lose hair. That the entire town’s police force drove their cars over to our house to see the beautiful Chinese baby girl the day I was brought home.

I can tell from his pride, from his happiness that this is all true. My father loves me, despite being the first baby kept to be born after numerous abortions. Despite what my mother once told me in a spiteful moment (forgive, don’t judge her, we all have our lows) that I was the baby that was only kept to secure permanent residency. That she had no choice. She followed my father to Australia, had no one else and both decided this is where they were going to stay.

In writing this I feel I need to put a bandaid over it. To reassure people I’ve had a happy childhood and that my parents love me. To close with a happy ending. To save face. However, I also feel it’s no one’s business; I know the truth within myself and have started to think of Helen Garner. I’m feeling naked, but as she says I don’t feel totally exposed “because in this mysterious way I’m trying to describe, the “I” in the story is never completely me” . Don’t get me wrong, this is my story, my parents, my interview, but underneath the bath towels I’ve wrapped each of us in, giving the illusion of acceptable nakedness, we’re secretly wearing swimmers.

caged

Procrastination has fueled me to compulsively refresh everything from bloglovin to facebook, the online (uni) blackboard to email... and arriving in my email an array of online newsletters and catalogues, including asos.com.

I now have an irrational urge to splurge on this baby:



At £28, or rather, in my current financial standing as 'poor uni student', this would not be a wise decision. Plus, I've a tendency to splurge during times of stress and in procrastination, so I'm abstaining. It's much wiser to invest in hair care, plus with the current paypal promotion ($20 cash back to Australian paypal holders when purchasing from a participating overseas retailer), it's much harder to say no. Shiny, happy hair, here I come!

Time to "justify" as a reward by hitting my target deadline of completing Finance revision notes...

P.S. Best scent in the universe? Residual cologne from the loved one that stowed away on your dress...